Friends, family, and business….

Good day! My publicist gave me some excellent advice the other day that I thought I would share with you all….

“Don’t mix business with friends and family.”

I think he’s right. It’s an amazingly liberating concept when you think about it. Although it’s true, or used to be true, that if at least your family buys your book, you have a chance. Ages ago families and friends would buy hundreds of copies of the author’s book, or pay to get her speaking engagements. After that, the book took off on its own.

That is no longer how it works. This is a tremendous relief to me. It’s still about money but it’s less about selling to people you know. Before the internet businesses were more local or mom-and-pop style. Now we market all over the globe.

My publicist pointed out that if he told his friends and family about his business, they’d be sticking their necks out telling him what to do on a topic they know nothing about. People do tend to do that. They give unwanted advice without knowing a thing about the industry.

I understand that people give advice because they care, and while I see the intentions are good, many of these bits of advice haveĀ  been rather jarring to me. I don’t know how to react when it happens, that is, I don’t know how to react in a way that isn’t hurtful.

That is the reason why I password-protected some posts. Mostly I do it to keep the trolls away but also to keep away unsolicited, hurtful advice.

Super good book I recommend

I’m reading The Insanity Hoax by Judith Schlessinger. This book dispels the myth that you have to be mad to be creative. In the part I am reading now she states that the media has a lot to do with the propagation of this myth. I will post more thoughts as I get toward the end.

Remember A Beautiful Mind? Turned out they twisted the facts, remember?

Reckless and irresponsible….

Here is the article:

https://www.bostonglobe.com/metro/2019/08/03/bones-found-backyard-former-sober-home/CmMGTaOUswbyTwyvqOKkSJ/story.html

It is reckless, as an owner of a sober house, to demand that residents stop taking psych drugs cold turkey. As sober house owner, you are an authority figure and people will take what you say seriously. I am saddened to see that these people died as a result of psych drug withdrawal.

Yes, you can get off psych drugs, but it must be done carefully as these drugs are habit-forming.

Here is a website that tells you how to get off psych drugs by tapering:

https://www.theinnercompass.org/

Here is a support forum for people getting off psych drugs:

https://survivingantidepressants.org

Most people who have survived psych drug withdrawal agree that “cold turkey” is not a good idea. Very bad things can happen. I hear it can be as bad as going off opiates cold turkey. Although there’s plenty of anecdotal evidence that cold turkey is possible, you are taking big chances.

I went cold turkey off Risperdal and Abilify, with no bad effects. I finally realized after a while that I’m just one person and by contrast, far too many get a bad reaction.

I would not give advice on how to get off psych drugs, or if I did, I’d be sensitive to the power dynamics between myself and the other person. I’d rather just encourage and support the person, which I think is all we can do as human beings.

 

 

Capital One security breach

Cap One is the best credit card out there unless you have a very good credit score. It’s my go-to card and I have a bunch. Customer service is excellent if you’re in a pickle. I’ve never had a problem with them, ever. They handled fraud well, too. They were able to block almost all fraudulent charges from re-appearing. In one instance they had me contact the vendor to get to the bottom of a recurring charge. Turned out someone had subscribed to a TV plan and put it on my card. That was easy to get taken off, but time-consuming. The vendor did the work and deactivated the person’s account. I have not had fraud in ages.

I’m saddened that this company had this happen to them. Looks like they have not quite revealed how it happened. Misconfigured firewall, that’s all. The hacker was a former Amazon employee. I believe they or someone who represents them will be contacting all affected customers (over 100 million) and telling us about free credit monitoring or some such thing.

There was some data breach at some medical facility Los Angeles and I ended up receiving a postcard telling me my data was compromised. They are sending a class action suit payment to all of us. I have never visited a medical facility in LA, but likely some other medical system uses the same software. They want our social security numbers and other Personal Identifiable Information (PII).

My main worry is my address. I don’t want unwanted, uninvited visitors showing up here. I still have a deep-seated fear of being surprised someday and being put away. One must always remain vigilant.

Yahoo addresses blocked

Yahoo has blocked any mail coming from anyone who uses ASO as a hosting company. This has been sporadic for years and now it’s consistent. I can’t even use an email address that has been imported into Google. Likely this is ASO’s responsibility and not Yahoo’s. ASO has really gone downhill but I can’t afford to switch everything over to SiteGround, an infinitely better hosting company that I use for this site. I will have to add up the figures and see if it will be worthwhile to switch entirely.

I am ending my YouTube music account. It was nice at first to hear all those old songs, but since a lot of the time I’m on a bus and reception is poor, it’s not worth it. The songs won’t load. For $13 a month? Naw.

My Blog Talk Radio station is downsized to a basic plan. I stopped doing broadcasts due to lack of listeners. Then I didn’t renew it after a while.

It does help to go through various things you subscribed to and evaluate whether you want to keep them. Or, for some of us, if we even remember subscribing.

Meanwhile, those of you who have Yahoo addresses and find me silent, likely I just can’t get through.

Devastating consequences of diagnosis

As I watched this, childhood memories floated back to me. I had many imaginary playmates who stayed with me even when I was nine or ten. Did you? I doubt I had 200, but this little girl is cursed with a diagnosis, so of course she won’t let go of her pals. If you watch to the end, the parents give us a clue into why this has become not only exaggerated, but permanent. “It never goes away,” they say.

Yikes!

I believe that’s what they want, deep down inside. Any of you who have taken a childhood development class know that having imaginary playmates is very normal for children. Children often converse with their pals, and it’s not unusual to have many such playmates. I’m thinking it’s likely most common among children born first, since there are no siblings initially. My mom told me I was very easy to raise because I could play alone so well and was great at amusing myself. She said I could go on and on for hours, yapping away in my room.

That sure wasn’t schizophrenia. It was Mom realizing I was a well-developing child. Later, I loved to read fairy tales. These days I can keep myself amused just fine, with or without external structure. I can’t recall being bored for years, likely a full decade.

The ability to self-amuse is a skill, not a disease!

The child’s rejection of Oprah is understandable. Imagine how many shrinks have insisted she “talk” instead of what kids want to do…play.

Do you really see psychosis in this child, or normal childhood stuff? Clearly, making this into a disease has caused exaggeration of problem behavior. People who are psychotic are in some way irrational. Their stories might seem believable at first but you can see, eventually, that they don’t add up. The person might explain about an encounter with aliens, or involvement with top levels of government, etc.

There’s a wonderful story about peer respite staff who make a point of meeting the psychotic person where they are at. The person was frantic over an alien invasion at a certain time and place. The staff took this very seriously instead of trying to “treat” the person or push the person into accepting some fake illness. Instead, the person and the staff went to that place, at that time, and waited for the aliens. They did not come.

I love that story. This wasn’t done to shame the person or to “prove” him wrong. This was done to honor him. You won’t see this happening anywhere in traditional MH “treatment.” The guy would have been locked up and drugged, solving nothing.

The child’s imaginary playmates are perpetuated by diagnosis. She gets attention when she highlights her pals. Note again the end of the film. The parents pay attention to her because her “symptoms” overwhelm her when they don’t. Poof! She knows how to play this game. Sadly, the reinforcement of game-playing inevitably ends up in disaster.

The YouTube was published last year. I wonder if we’ll get an update. Note the comments also.