What every psych patient should be told when they are put on disability

  1. Accepting disability is a choice. You have the right to say no.
  2. You are accepted for disability now. In a year, you may very well be ready to return to work. For the next year, you will need to prepare and plan, and if your current career is unsuitable, find one that works for you better.
  3. The longer you stay on disability, the harder it will be to find a job.
  4. Disability payments aren’t enough to live on. While you are accepting these payments you will need to spend your savings or apply for handouts.
  5. The more handouts you receive, the more dependent you will be on those handouts.

I wish they had told me. What about you?

The importance of autonomy

I do believe that we humans should help and support each other. I also believe that we are all part of an interwoven web. What I object to is the singling out of a subset of people as more needy than others. The exception here would be children, who are tended to until they are ready to be on their own.

There are some awesome retirement communities out there. I support this idea mainly because elders can relate to other elders very well and are better understanding of each other’s needs. A retirement community should exist with the same interwoven, web-like characteristics of the surrounding supportive society, and not exist in isolation. A decent retirement community would help elders stay out of nursing homes, in other words, it supports autonomy.

I like the idea of the family unit also. I don’t see that communal families are at all better for kids. I do like the idea of “neighborhood,” a place where kids can meet other kids and play together. Kids should have parks and playgrounds, outdoor spaces where they can enjoy themselves.

Among the adults, autonomy can be upheld no matter which of the adults work outside the home. Whoever does the housework, if it’s not shared, should be compensated in some way. If the other partner pays the mortgage and the at-home partner does not contribute, that’s a form of compensation. Housing in exchange for housework. However, this can quickly turn into a setup if the relationship isn’t strong, leading to power inequity and even dependency.

In a partnership that works, likely the two partners come to an agreement:

This is my space.
This is your space.
This is our together space.

How much overlap? This is up to the partners themselves. I think much of the reason for relationships breaking up is that the two cannot agree on how much will be shared space and how much will be independent.

In some situations, both partners work, but one of the partners works in a field such as the arts which doesn’t bring in adequate income. This means the other partner contributes more. I can see that this might lead to conflict if income distribution not totally clear between both parties.

I believe a person should strive for autonomy. This means staying away from government assistance if at all possible. Government assistance creates a power struggle because those who are helped lose power by being in a position of dependency. If you do not have enough money to live on, of course you are then forced to accept assistance. People exist on whatever path they’re on. Which direction are you headed in? For now, even if you are financially dependent, be free in your mind. Make your own decisions and realize you are also responsible for those decisions. The more responsibility you take on, the more you have control over your life.

This was PLANNED….and executed



It is bad here, bad everywhere.  I hear certain impoverished communities got hurt the worse…and that was exactly what they wanted, too. What a great way to get rid of those you don’t want anymore. Kill ’em, and you save money. They have already killed off so many. How about a few more?

Try Instacart!

Try Instacart using my referral link: https://inst.cr/t/7Zysarzhu

They can deliver groceries or even drugstore type items from CVS. They can deliver very quickly, so if you need something in a hurry you can get it. Even on Sunday! This is great for those of us who don’t want to use Amazon or Whole Foods. Instacart is also a good job if you have a car and want to grocery shop for people.

Ten reasons to refuse dialysis

I bet I can think of more than ten…but here goes.

1. Most dialysis patients die during the first year of treatment.

2. Dialysis is time-consuming. It’s like having another job, so if you are employed you are forced to cut your hours down. Then, since your income isn’t enough to live on, you’re now forced onto handouts including dis-ability and Medicare/Caid.

3. Complications are common, many can lead to death.

4. The fistula might not work at all and will be unusable. You’ll have to have another sort of catheter instead.

5. The fistula itself impacts quality of life.

6. PD is NOT “natural” as the propaganda might tell you. I don’t see sending blood via a machine through your stomach wall as “natural”!

7. High risk of infection with either PD or HD. If that happens, and you live, you will have to be switched.

8. You are now financially dependent on the State and you are costing taxpayers millions of dollars in both dis-ability payments and payouts for dialysis, never mind any other handout you have, such as medical transportation.

9. Your chances of hospitalization are higher with dialysis. You will see doctors more frequently.

10. If you go to a dialysis center you can become institutionalized. This has an impact on health and quality of life.

11. Dialysis does not necessarily make you feel better.

12. If you regret the decision to start dialysis, you can’t stop. Stopping means certain death very soon, whereas if you had refused to begin with, you may live a very long time, even with minimal kidney functioning.

13. In a Canadian study, 61% of dialysis patients regretted starting it.