Recently, I met with a group of people. There were five people present. This was supposed to be a democratic meeting, where all contributed to decision-making.
Are other psych survivors like me? Are you the first person in the room to recognize misuse of power?
I do not think anyone else noticed. I didn’t say anything. One person took over the meeting. To me, this was obvious.
There are many possible reasons why this happened. One reason is that this person might have thought that the rest of us were incapable and inadequate.
Every time I volunteered to take on a responsibility, she would say to me, “Don’t take on more than you can handle.” Huh? Who is she to assume I am so limited that I cannot do these things I have volunteered to do?
She did this over and over. After a while, I was truly disgusted. She literally pushed people into taking on the responsibilities she thought were right for them. Did anyone else recognize this?
I volunteered to take on a certain responsibility, but she repeatedly pushed me down and said we had to assign this to a person who was not present, and therefore, couldn’t agree or disagree to doing it. I, and the other members, pointed out that this person already has taken on a lot of other responsibilities.
Toward the end of the meeting, another member then turned to me and asked me if I’d like to do it, undermining this woman’s power plays.
Another thing: Why do people bash me badly for hurting their feelings when at the same time, they refuse to apologize for hurting mine? Do I see a double standard here?
Or is it ignorance? Should I laugh over this?
Or maybe they just think they’re above me in some way, and my feelings do not matter.
How do you change a person’s superiority complex?
Interestingly, a member who had seemed rather quiet during the meeting emailed all of us afterward saying something about the environment, a coffee shop, bugged him.
I laughed, because what bugs one person does not bug another, clearly.
I doubt I will say anything, lest I come across as rude or insensitive.