I was presented with this question today by someone and I will answer it here.
I agree that rape and child molesting is a horrible thing, don’t you? I remember in the nuthouses and programs I was in, I would say over the three decades of all that I met maybe 200 people who had experienced childhood sexual abuse and these were my personal friends. Maybe closer to 500 when I think of it. The majority were female. I say this because the women spoke of it. Men did not, but this doesn’t mean it doesn’t happen, it’s just that the men I knew tended not to speak of it as readily.
Let’s just say of all those in the System that I knew who had experienced childhood sexual abuse, I was fairly good friends with 200 over the decades. This doesn’t mean “Facebook friends.” This means people I knew in programs and hospitals. People I spoke with at length. Others I am not counting since I didn’t know them, or knew them in passing. Or we didn’t speak of the sexual abuse enough to count.
Of those, we’d discuss these things in group sometimes. It was hard. Of those 200, the abuse was serious and for most, not an isolated incident. So it was ongoing, or repeated a number of times.
Now 200 is a lot. Of those 200, was any one of them in prison? No. Not one. A few had been separated by the courts, but even though the courts were aware of the abuse, they hadn’t imprisoned the child abusers. Even the worst of the abusers, and yes, I heard very bad stories from some people. Their abusers were not imprisoned. Many were dead or whereabouts unknown.
So you may be arguing, “Does this mean only the very worst abusers go to prison?”
The ones that get caught go to prison, and only a small percentage do. Remember, children do not report, because they are scared. I heard a statistic that sounds about right. On average, it takes a child victim 21 years to come forward. In most states, the statute of limitations has long passed! The perps locked up are the VERY FEW that got caught. What the fuck?
Of those locked up, I’d love to see a breakdown….
What percent who are on the sex offender list or locked up for such offenses are intellectually challenged (IQ under 75 or so) and what the fuck are we doing locking up anyone who lacks the intellectual capacity to understand what they’re doing? How can they when most “husbands” just don’t get it either?
Of those who report to police and are believed and taken seriously…What percent are white and affluent? What are the chances of being believed if you have an addiction history, if you are poor, if you are black, if you have a mental or criminal history, if you’re homeless, if you are autistic, if you have dementia or don’t see or hear well? Or will the cops just laugh in your face?
If you are in jail and you get raped, is anyone gonna give a fuck? Or is that a useless question to ask?
What percentage of rapists are running free, and why aren’t we doing anything? Why are we paying thousands per day to incarcerate people who committed the crime of getting caught?
What about the more upscale crimes, which aren’t as lowdown and dirty, crimes committed by doctors that they get away with by paying off judges or by leaving the country?
Since Justice isn’t doing a very good job, let’s FIRE her, eh? How do we do this? We can keep her working, but how about being more skeptical of her shoddy work, eh? So let’s ease up on those she has totally screwed.
Let’s be tolerant. That I know of, there’s no difference between a person on the inside and a person on the outside except those walls and locked doors that divide us. I can tell you that being locked up will fuck up your life even worse by this arbitrary, sloppy, and lazy entity called Justice we should at least challenge more often. I question why we continue to lock up human beings when compassion is a better idea.