Why do you “need” a doctor?

I don’t understand these folks that claim to need doctors. Even people like me who have supposedly hopeless conditions (kidney disease) are better off without slavery to doctors. I try to challenge people on this: “Why do you need a PCP? Why do you need a specialist.”

Usually the answer is “because I need prescriptions.” But I ask myself if there’s something more to this. Often, along with this dependency comes a need for guidance, need for assurance, need for affirmation and advice, even need for appointments (especially if one is unemployed and “bored”) to fill the empty time.

What if you broke free from this and had all the time in the world? What would you do with the time (think up something productive, please!). Not only does doctor-dependency comes out of boredom from unemployment, but from loneliness also.

Imagine having actual friends who aren’t people you PAY to see. Imagine having a give-and-take that comes with real friendship. Imagine making your own decisions and not relying on advice-givers who don’t even give a shit about you (let’s face it).

It’s not so easy to break free of doctor-dependency and chronic advice-seeking. It’s as hard as leaving an abusive spouse or walking away from a religious cult. But leaving the cult of neediness is possible. Yes, you can!

6 thoughts on “Why do you “need” a doctor?”

  1. I avoid doctors as much as possible. Even the real kind. Most non-psychiatric doctors are ignorant of the damage shrinks cause or they know and go to great lengths to cover it up. Enough to make me paranoid.

    I remember thinking–shortly after my MI labeling–the only person willing to listen to my grief and pretend to care about my pain has to be paid for it. A while later I made some friends of my fellow lepers in our state-sponsored colony, otherwise known as Day Treatment/Clubhouse.

  2. Wow that you would really shame people with legit illnesses for needing medical treatment. I have never heard this rational that someone goes to doctors because they’re bored and don’t know what to do with their time.

    1. I do! I have seen it. After all, the appointments are covered. People go to day treatment, which is completely covered by taxpayer money, much out of boredom.

  3. Okay, seriously? A life without Doctors?

    How in the world would you propose to do that?

    A check-up once a year would and should suffice for most people. Those of us who have long-term physical issues need that little extra tender loving care.

    Tell me, if you had cancer, what would you do? Would you want to beat the cancer? Would you want to live? Personally, I’m all gun hoe about having Faith in God and his abilities to heal someone. However, I do think that Doctors were put here to help those in need.

    But what do I know? I’m just a woman who survived having several massive infections all at once (and nearly died because of it), someone who has lost a few loved ones through cancer, and such. With me, I don’t see how I would have been able to survive such a horrific experience had it not been for the Doctors who intervened and helped save my life.

    As for dealing with psych issues, everyone is different. If a person needs the help of a doctor in regards to their psych issues, that is up to them… well, them and the people who are helping the person.

    1. The profession is not the same as it was a century ago. They are now very highly paid and actual patient contact, that is, the time they spend with patients is reduced in western countries. It makes a lot of sense to me that people who live in places where they cannot get clean water would need medical attention. It doesn’t make sense that in wealthy countries, where people have plenty of access to food and clean water, where we are not living in utter filth, why are so many people going to appointments several times a week? I don’t fault those going, but I do fault the medical profession and the overall mentality of dependency on that profession. I don’t think we don’t need doctors at all. They’re useful, but not gods on high, nor authorities over us that should ever run our lives, nor EVER tell us they know better.

Feedback and comments welcome!