Thanks to a pal for pointing this out.
Groups have their ups and downs. Sometimes we start groups with the best of intentions but somehow, the group gets hijacked. Has this ever happened to you? You start a chess club, but some asshole would rather play checkers. So he says, “Hey, does anyone want to play checkers, come meet with me over there!” and he invites the guys over to Starbucks. Soon, you’re all alone at Dunkin Donuts where you had meeting for the chess club for the past six months. You carry your chess pieces home for the final time, disgusted. They even took the chess board. Now, it’s a checkers board.
That happened to me. I used to be a member of Weight Watchers Online. I started a Mental Illness thread. Okay, okay, I know….yeah I have the right to change my mind and did…..Anyway, many joined. Then, another gal started a Lexapro thread. So all those gals joined that one. Then, they claimed she started the whole thing. She didn’t. I had started it, but never mind that.
I thought it would be good for us to get off of Weight Watchers, maybe have our own site. So I started one. They complained and complained, saying they didn’t like it.
Another gal said, “I can do it better.” So she actually MOVED THE SITE. Took it off and moved the site to another URL. They called Debby their hero and said she was so fucking smart. Then they said that Debby had started it. No, I started it, but Debby stole it.
I had started the group and initiated our move off of Weight Watchers. All of us were overweight from psychiatric drugs. I was the only one who had lost all the weight I had gained from the drugs.
I guess they were just plain jealous. One day, they got very hostile and kicked me out. Yep, I had started it, but they kicked me out. Then, they patted themselves on their backs and told themselves “job well done” and over and over about how great they were, getting rid of the “bad apples” in the group.
They also said I was “no longer a person.” Debby said that.
One day they said I was “violent” and all of them locked their doors in group paranoaic fear. Another time they said Welfare should take Puzzle should be taken away from me and I should be forcibly locked up for a long time. Another time they said I had a personality disorder. One of them sent the cops to my home. One of them had a relative on the local cop force so yes it got scary. She was on the West Coast but she said she could call her brother-in-law and find out all the dirt on what they knew about me. They honestly thought (in their mass paranoia) that I was going to go on a shooting rampage and “kill them all.”
That was 2012. Yeah that was one bad year all right.
This is a result of false notions, false fears, totally incorrect notions about a person. They were completely wrong.
Please, either laugh or cry. I have no clue which would be a more emotionally appropriate response for these losers.