Unfounded fears toward "au pair formerly in mental hospital," fired from job, assumed violent, with no violent history

In a random Google search I came across a forum discussing whether or not to hire a foreign Au Pair. I was saddened to see the discussion of “background checks.” One contributor stated that their family had had the following “bad experience”:

They hired an au pair. They stated that the young woman had been thoroughly screened by the agency. After her arrival, this family discovered the young woman had been in a mental hospital in her country for eight months. The parents were shocked to hear this. They blamed the agency for not screening properly, sent the young woman home to her parents, and vowed they would never hire another au pair again.

They did not state how they discovered the woman’s history. Perhaps it was by an overhead conversation with a relative or friend over the telephone. Or perhaps the au pair had no clue of the bigotry she would face upon confession of her background. The forum post mentioned no irresponsible behavior on the part of the au pair, nor anything objectionable she actually did. I’m sure the poster would have mentioned harm to the children, had this occurred. In fact, from the looks of things, they fired her on the spot, furious, assuming she was a subhuman monster, with no actual evidence that she was anything but a well-screened au pair who was a good match for the family.

Their loss, right?

I hope she got a better job for herself elsewhere. I wouldn’t want to work for employers who were bigots, either.

I know people who have fought such discrimination cases and won. In the case of a foreigner, for sure it’s not even worth the time and effort. Even in clear-cut domestic discrimination cases, I’d run away fast rather than pursue and win your job back.

Who wants to work for a bigot? If you win your job back, they’ll make it miserable for you. Best to leave, go elsewhere, call it a loss, then win your case some other way. Yes, these things will come back to haunt them, never fear.

4 thoughts on “Unfounded fears toward "au pair formerly in mental hospital," fired from job, assumed violent, with no violent history”

  1. A few years ago I read that in Japan, all it took for a person to be committed to a psychiatric facility for life was the signatures of two close relatives. Supposedly, there’s some move on to change that, but it’s just an example of how many other countries afford even fewer rights to psych patients than America does. Great way to silence sexual abuse survivors. “She’s just imagining it!” Bam! Off to the loony bin. So yeah, simply a psych history is no resaon to deny a person employment, but then we must remember how psych drugs can incite violence, making the violent psych patient stigma a self-fulfilling prophecy. I’d go so far as to say a drug test for anybody in a sensitive job, from babysitting to holding the key at a nuclear missile base, would not be unreasonable. Discriminate by prescription, not diagnosis. Anybody who’s been off ssri’s and out of legal trouble for a certain amount of time ought to have the same employment rights as anybody else. But ensuring those rights would be next to impossible. One thing that could be done is to tighten hippa laws to really prevent disclosure without the patient’s consent.

    1. With Murphy they want to do the exact opposite! Open up the records and expose anyone who ever was psych. It’s insane and scary.

      Even now, a form of spousal abuse is to put the spouse in a nuthouse repeatedly, each time she tries to report that she is being abused. It works wonders to silence the spouses. I knew so, so many abused spouses thus silenced for years who were fellow inmates.

  2. That’s horrible! The sad thing is how common this is. The fallout from a arbitrary diagnosis is damn near impossible to shake. It’s so messed up.

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