So here’s an article I read on suicide:
Guess the writer of the letter to the editor had no clue what it’s like AFTER you make an attempt. Life sucks afterward cuz you get ostracized. By the medical community and by the community in which you live, and possibly by your own family. You might even lose your job. I guess that’s why people who commit suicide are ultimately likely to commit suicide again, cuz it’s on their record FOR LIFE.
Do you want to live? Do you want to have a quality life, free of discrimination?
In a word: get that attempt off your record if you expect to survive at all. If a doctor asks, lie.
Expect to be denied treatment if anyone finds out. I know that’s illegal, but they will all be afraid to treat you due to liability. So I would suggest lying about the attempt. When they ask, just say you had no attempts in the past. You are more likely to not be denied care.
Expect that if you reveal having attempted suicide, your friends will dump you immediately. “Oh, so that’s why you were in the hospital, eh?” And they’ll never call again. Just tell them you were going to have your heart checked. Tell them any stupid thing. Tell them it was cancer so then they will love you a whole lot and put on a benefit walk for you.
So when you go to see your next shrink, if you don’t admit to having made an attempt in the past, you won’t be considered a liability risk. They’re less likely to make up some lie, saying, “My schedule is full,” or some baloney because no way do they want to take you on anyway.
Never mind your community. Your friends won’t call anymore if they find out. The whole town will turn its back on you. You will probably not have that job waiting for you when you get back. They will make it look legit in some way. Of course they will.
I have seen this done. It’s harder now to fire someone for “mental health” or “disability” reasons, so this is what jobs do, both volunteer jobs and paying jobs. The employer or fellow employees or supervisors get together and they decide, “We want her out.” So they get into their huddle. The huddle of the inside folks. You know, the inner circle of folks, the loved ones, the elite, the ones that leave the others out. They whisper to each other in the huddle. Every workplace has its elite.
Know what they do? They put on the pressure. She comes back from an absence, maybe she missed a day of work or a meeting, and they tell her, “Maybe your health problems are a bit too much for you right now.” Or, “Maybe you need some rest. Have you been thinking of taking time off?” So the person gets coerced into stepping down, and she is totally convinced that she has made this decision on her own, and it’s all “for the best,” and she is doing it “for herself,” to “take care of her health.” But the truth is, the workplace wanted her out.
I’m not talking about a specific person or a specific incident or job, but I’ve seen this done at workplaces and to many people I’ve known. The trick works and workplaces succeed at getting their mentally ill workers out of their hair easily and quickly this way. Legal? Unfortunately, it is done.
Unfortunately, my posting this is a double-edged sword. Assholes can use my idea now that I’ve described it. On the other hand, I’m guessing that most of my readership does not come to my blog to learn how to get rid their unwanted employees. Usually, they read my articles based on what the title says. If you have a suicide attempt on your record, get it off your record.
Or better yet: don’t be an idiot, don’t even TRY suicide. As for trying and succeeding, I can’t speak for that. Never been there. If I had, I wouldn’t be here to write these words.
Does it hurt to be dead? I have not walked in those shoes. I have yet to be legally dead. I don’t think it’s anyone’s right to impose some all-holy belief about death on others. I can’t speak from experience AT ALL and I’ve never been there, so I won’t say a word. Don’t let some do-gooder tell you otherwise.